Posts by Incognigo Montoya

Exactly cofty. You wanna be an idiot and kill yourself, fine. But I don't want you taking me out or my loved ones, or any innocent party, for that matter. To be texting on your cell phone, while driving, is to just not give a shit about anyones life. So many different opinions about talking on your cell while driving, but we'd all be safer if everyone focused on their driving and left the phone calls until they were home, using a chainsaw or meat slicer, or curling iron...

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Friday!!!

by ZindagiNaMilegiDobaara in

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friends

have a great weekend all!.

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zing.

Incognigo Montoya

You too!

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Should Hand Held Cellphones Be Banned While Driving?

by minimus in

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many states do not even allow you to hold your phone if you are driving.

do you think you should be fined hundreds of dollars for touching your phone while driving?

?.

Incognigo Montoya

ANYTHING, that takes your mind of of the task at hand, is a distraction. A conversation is a distraction. Too distracting to drive? I would argue not. Usually. But it can be, if you, as the driver allow it to be. A heated conversation could easily become to distracting, for example.

Some studies show that some music can help with focus, while others show it to be a distraction. I believe this all to be subjective, and personally find some music to be distracting while driving, while other music actually helps center and focus me while driving. Your results may vary.

Arguably, conversation and music can be a distraction, but generally not enough to detract from the focus we need to drive. Texting, or using a hand held device for social media or surfing the net, is a distraction that will interfere with our ability to operate a vehicle.

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Should Hand Held Cellphones Be Banned While Driving?

by minimus in

jw
friends

many states do not even allow you to hold your phone if you are driving.

do you think you should be fined hundreds of dollars for touching your phone while driving?

?.

Incognigo Montoya

Made me think of this scene, Minimus, 😂

https://youtu.be/jOAAgDOtNz0

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Should Hand Held Cellphones Be Banned While Driving?

by minimus in

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friends

many states do not even allow you to hold your phone if you are driving.

do you think you should be fined hundreds of dollars for touching your phone while driving?

?.

Incognigo Montoya

Minimus, I agree, I don't want government dictating to me what I can and cannot do. But, while you and I use common sense, so many others do not. When my life is at stake, since fate often puts me beside a driver who cannot focus on the road, because the phone call they are on is too important, or they just have to text their BFF, or boss, spouse, kid, parent, or whoever, I think my life is more improtant than their right to communicate via phone, while driving. I'm willing to give that up for my safety and the lives of others. We're already mandated, by law, to use seatbelts, and in most places in the western hemisphere, helmets. So, no cellphone use wouldn't be much different. I don't see the need to be in constant contact, to be necessary. And since our society can't seem to control their addiction to the phone, then, unfortunately mr government stepping in, might be prudent.

As incognito points out, you can put unbelievably hefty fines and penalties on handheld device use, but it doesn't seem to phase them. So you gotta find a way to really make it hurt, as well as continue to educate the motoring/cell phone using, public. Much like they have done with drinking and driving. Until then, and even after (if it were to happen) I continue to ride and drive, defensively.

That all said, I speed, especially on my bike. The law, which is the speed limit, does not deter me (road conditions, traffic, and police cars do) So that makes me a hypocrite, I argue a complex, and complicated person, 😆😉. I don't like, or agree with being restricted by speed limits. But that is another debate. I bring it up, to say, I understand restrictive laws being inconvenient, and people not wanting to obey them. I make up all sorts of excuses as to why it's ok for me to speed, but not everyone else. Lol. Stupid really. I guess, if I'm gonna insist on breaking one law, I've gotta accept others are gonna break some too. Drive and ride defensively,

I agree with you, though, anything can be distracting, as you can see from my first comment. But texting while driving takes the drivers eyes from the road, for a deceptively long period of time. Very different than talking to a passenger, listening, or even tuning a radio, as your eyes can, and should still be on the road. Even your "pretty girl" scenario, your head is up and you at least have the benefit of peripheral vision, vs head down, texting. Anyway, all good points, good conversation.

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Should Hand Held Cellphones Be Banned While Driving?

by minimus in

jw
friends

many states do not even allow you to hold your phone if you are driving.

do you think you should be fined hundreds of dollars for touching your phone while driving?

?.

Incognigo Montoya

I am torn. As a MC rider, I am for banning cell phone use while driving, especially texting. I think, texting while driving should be treated exactly like a DUI.

Talking on a cell phone, I believe, can be problematic, especially for young and inexperienced drivers. However, I don't really see it as any more distracting than conversing with a passenger, or listening to a radio program. It's really about how much attention you allow yourself to divert away from operating the vehicle. Hands free does little difference, imo. Ultimately, we would all fare better if everyone stopped talking and focused their full attention on the road. So I suppose, If a ban on cell phone use was passed, I would be ok with it. We don't really need to be on our phones, while driving. The world functioned perfectly fine before cell phones. 99.9% of calls can wait.

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Need some advice, my gf just tried to commit suicide (very long post)

by Jayk in

sorry for the grammar and spelling errors if any..(me 29 raised in the org) (gf 25 not raised) just left her at the hospital with (call her sara).. sara had just ingested half a bottle of her antidepressant pill and half a bottle of melatonin.

this took place after a discussion we where having about a recent event that took place.

long story short, sara told me she slept with my best friend/coworker(call him tim) after a argument we had, the morning after it supposedly happened.. i was pretty torn but i was maintaining and i even thought sara was lying because tim was such a good friend.

Incognigo Montoya

So, what about your friend? Is that still up in the air, or do you have a definitive answer as to what she told you?

What you witnessed in this situation, actually were a part of, is scary and overwhelming. You most definitely should talk to a professional about it, and seek some help, answers, and perhaps closure, for yourself. If you don't, you're likely to continue to mentally re-live this for quite some time, and this can take a toll on you. I have experienced something very similar, having to rush a loved one, very dear to me, to an emergency room, after she ingested an overdose of pills, in a desperate call for help. It is scary, and I was helpless to do anything, which to me, as a man, is a foreign concept that I have a difficult time accepting. But I needed answers. The answers, from a professional, and patience, helped. I hope you seek help from a professional, someone you can give all the details to, and who can safely help you decipher them, and get you to a place where you can move forward to more healthy relationships. My heart goes out to you, and to Sara. Take care.

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JW cars.

by zeb in

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for some reason former jw friends came to mind and i thought of their car how it was a mess of clothes, squashed food and other grunge.

they had adult kids who could have cleaned it once a while.. others had vehicles that never saw a spanner and another which rode the highways on bald tyres.. hmm a bit too spiritually minded perhaps?.

is auto neglect common out there?.

Incognigo Montoya

Zing, you've never had a car?!